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This Buddy last logged in at 28-03-2007
Birthday: 23-06-1967
This is my story
After a chubby childhood I lost my weight in my teens when I discovered fashion, boys and going out.
I was a slim size 8-10 until about aged 24 when I moved in with my boyfriend and I suppose we settled too easily into cosy unwedded bliss!with big evening meals, full roasts on Sundays, takeouts on Friday night etc.....the weight crept on slowly without me really noticing. When we split up after nearly 10 years together I was a comfy size 16-18 and weighed about 11stone.
After the split I decided I needed time out to enjoy my freedom I was 29 and and had been in a long term relationship for nearly 10 years,I enjoyed spending time with my friends and working hard at my career (I was a very successful System Development and Training Advisor for a large well known utility company). My work meant I was often away from home living and eating in hotels all over the country- sounds glamourous but living out of a suitcase and on your own in different cities can be lonely.
After a whirlwind romance I had my daughter in February 1998 and when offered redundancy by my employer I accepted. Being a full time mum was lovely at first I adored my daughter but there was something missing from my life even helping out my partners family business didnt really help. So I took to property developing with my partner as joint backer. It was fantastic and gave me the freedom to be my own boss and get my hands dirty! and we made a lot of money.
My dream had always been to own my own pub and this was something my partner seemed keen on too- to get out of his family catering business and be his own man so to speak!
We set the wheels in motion completed all the necessary training, saw a pub, put in an offer and than WHOOLAP!!! He left me-just like that! out of the blue, no explanation nothing! 3 weeks before Christmas our daughter wasnt even 3 years old.
The next 18 months were the worst of my life- I had to sell our lovely home, there was a lot of legal wrangling over the properties we jointly owned, there were rows over maintainence and access to our daughter. The stress took a huge toll I was eating and drinking to block out the situation and to cope with my grief (I still loved this man even though afterwards i found out he bought the pub behind my back! and another one as well!)
The only good that came of this whole stressfull time was the conception and birth of our beautiful son Daniel in July 2002- yes I know! but I was still in love with the guy!!
However any feelings I had for him were soon quashed when he did not ackowledge the pregnancy, cut off all contact with me and worse our young daughter (WHY??? when he spend thousands going to court) and later demanded a DNA test on both of them- how dare he!
During the whole of this time my weight had soared to over 14st during the pregnancy itself I only gained 10lb but was still nearly 15st. after our son was born.
I was now a single mum with 2 small children. Luckily I had enough money after all the financial wrangling to buy a house outright for us, but still the situation for us was not ideal and not what I had wanted for the childrens sakes.
Bringing you up to date My son is now 4 and just started school this September and my daughter is nearly 9- neither of my kids have seen or had contact with their father for over 4 years- no Christmas cards, birthday cards, phone calls, letters etc... I regulary send details of their progress and photos but not a bean from him! The CSA have had to intervene to get him to pay maintainence for his children. I have finally concluded its his loss not mine as I am the one enjoying the delights (albiET HARD WORK) of parenting.
I sold the little house nearly 3 years ago and I have now bought a fantastic 4 bed 1930s detached house in the best part of town (ok it needs lots of work but Im a property developer through and through) but its our home and we love it!
I am on a career break from HMRC as I am exploring buying myself a Threshers off license franchise with my brother as manager.
My weight is still an issue but I decided in March 2005 enough was enough and I had a gastric band fitted- only a handful of peeps know. Im down from 15st 9lb to 13st 4lb its a slow process but I havent been as strict with myself as I could, but now my life is back on track Im determined to conquer this battle like Ive conquered everything else life has thrown at me for the last few years!
Im 40 next year and Im gonna be that slim girl again- bit this time with the confidence and worldlyness of my lifes experiences.
I was banded in March 2005 by Michael Van Den Bossche BUPA Southampton. Single parent 2 gorgeous kids. Civil servant
