Food is not the underlying issue - looking at other ways!
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This Buddy last logged in at 07-11-2007
Birthday: 26-08-1973
This is my story
I have struggled with my weight since I was 10 and have realised there is so more more to this than cutting down calories. I have defied the laws of physics to gain weight when I have cut down. For example one weekend I had a smoothie for breakfast, missed lunch on both days (not good I know) and had a Sainsbury's calorie controlled meal on both the Saturday and Sunday evenings AND went horse riding on the Sunday. I was feeling like Twiggy until I gained 3 pounds on the Monday morning and a further 2 pounds on the Tuesday. They didn't fluctuate or shift at all and then I gained further weight. So many people now have told me that they think my weight is due to tension/stress and as I am learning, the body can do funny things under stress. I do a lot of personal development work and have been told that my weight is a 'fear of intimacy'. The message about weight gain being simply as a result of excess calories is archaic and belongs alongside medieval blood-letting to treat illness. I can go on holiday and eat whatever I like (and come back a couple of pounds lighter having sat on the beach all day) yet in my normal day-to-day life seem to gain weight inhaling air!
I use a couple of tools, one of which I would like to share with readers of this website: screaming into a feather pillow (feathers muffle the sound) is an amazing outlet for stress and screaming 'I am not guilty' into a pillow if you think you have eaten too much is phenomenal and helps to break unhealthy patterns driven by guilt. In fact screaming is a huge release. You can also punch a pillow with huge effect (even mentally put someone's face on it) and I think Anne Diamond could have done with that tool when faced with that playground gang of hyenas she was with on 'Celebrity Fit Club'. I would love to see how long the weight stays off with these contestants when the threat of bullying and ritual humiliaton has been removed.
I love Paul McKenna's 'I Can Make You Thin' as I think the way to go is to be able to eat what you want when you are hungry and stop when you are full. I think a main problem is that the full signal disappears when there is stress in the body.
I would also recommend the following website: www.psychologyofvision.co.uk - for workshops that can help get to the underlying issues around weight gain (and relationships) which may not be down to the foods we eat.
I note that those who are obese are becoming the next target group for prejudice, like racism. When I watched those trailers for Jamie Oliver's programmes I was incredulous at him dropping an ice cream on the ground and then eating it - I have never seen anyone, overweight or otherwise, pick up ice cream off the ground and eat it! Can you imagine the uproar if, instead of a fat suit, he was wearing a long robe and beard or a turban? It seems we are the next group of peopleto be targeted. Note that we are accepting it at the moment, largely out of guilt I suspect, which I get told is another cause of excess weight on personal development workshops I attend (although I think it is fear as well).
