No shrinking Violet!
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This Buddy last logged in at 26-10-2006
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This is my story
Hi,
I have struggled with my weight since I was 13. My father was in the Army and an athlete and often would comment on my food intake and tell me I was fat. It was then that I started eating in secret and felt like food was my friend. I now realise looking back at photo's I wasn't fat; I did carry a bit of puppy fat which dropped off when I left school.
At 16 I started to see a guy who told me how beautiful I was, I didn't enjoy home life so I got married 2 weeks after my 18th birthday. Sadly the marriage didn't last and I had put weight on during the marriage, I was even told it was my weight gain that made my ex have an affair!
Through my 20's I had various relationships but one of them made me change my life forever. I become a victim of a bully, he made remaarks about my weight and had a fetish for larger ladies. In the bedroom I was his ideal but in the day he wanted a size 10 lady on his arm. For 5 years I felt worthless until one day I snapped when he made such a bad remark I through him out. That day I wanted to kill myself and spent some time in hospital but with the help of my friends I managed to pick myself up. I decided to go travelling and it was then that I really found myself.
A few years ago I fell in love with my husband who is my soul mate. He too was heavy and I did have doubts about what people would think of us being together. Our love was too strong and when we go married we knew it was right. I was 22 stone and my hubby was over 35 stone.
2 years on we have lost over 20 stone between us!!!!!!! Through hard work and a mixture of fluid only diets and healthy eating we have reduced our weight. We are still classed as heavy but we have made such progress. One thing we did find was that not much support was available to us. Our doctor was supportive but our hospital can only see patients every 3 months. We do not have an obesity clinic in our region and no experts available who can deal with people who have a BMI of over 40. We have joined a local group set up by a lady who has had surgery, she is on a mission to get a clinic in our area but is fighting fires to get one. I think this site is a great idea and I am sure it will be a support to us all. Fat is a disease and should be treated like one but people do have to take some ownership and try and seek help and support where possible. Good luck everyone and best wishes.
